First purchase, first hesitation. The catalog is vast, the names are technical, and no one wants to ask their friends for advice. Here's what you need to know, in order.
1. Start with what you know about yourself
The question isn't "what's the best sex toy," but "what do I already like." If you know what works with your hands, choose a device that aligns with that rather than a spectacular object you won't know what to do with.
- External stimulation — a clitoral stimulator, vibrating or pulsating air. This is the most common and safest first purchase.
- Internal stimulation — a G-spot vibrator or a dildo. Opt for a small size to start.
- Both — a rabbit, which stimulates both areas at the same time.
2. Don't overpay for your first one
An excellent first device costs between €20 and €50. At this price, you get body-safe silicone, a reputable brand, a warranty, and waterproofing. High-end models at €150 offer refinement, not a difference in kind — save those for when you know what you like.
3. The three criteria that really matter
The material
Demand body-safe silicone, phthalate-free. This is non-negotiable: the material comes into contact with mucous membranes. Avoid unbranded objects without composition indications.
Waterproofing
A 100% waterproof device cleans in seconds under water. A non-waterproof device quickly becomes a chore, and a chore ends up at the bottom of a drawer.
Noise
No one talks about it, yet it's decisive if you don't live alone. Recent models from major brands are significantly more discreet than anonymous entry-level options.
4. Size: the classic trap
For a first dildo, aim for less than 4 cm in diameter. Length matters much less than circumference, and the most common mistake is choosing one that's too big. All our product descriptions indicate exact dimensions: read them before ordering.
5. Lubricant is not optional
This is the most cost-effective purchase on the list. A good water-based lubricant, at €10, will transform your experience much more than a €150 device. It's compatible with all materials, including silicone. We explain which one to choose here.
6. What happens after the order
With us, your package is 100% neutral: anonymous cardboard, no mention of the contents or the store name on the outside. Neither your neighbor, nor your doorman, nor your delivery person can guess what's inside.
Note: for hygiene reasons, unsealed intimate products cannot be returned. All the more reason to choose carefully the first time — and that's exactly what this guide is for.
Our suggestions for a first purchase
Browse our selection For her, For him or For couples. And don't forget the essentials: lubricant and cleaner.
Have a doubt before ordering? Write to us. No question is silly and nothing shocks us.